How Should I Deal With Bullies?

Do you act confident when around people who bully you?

Do you have a circle of friends that you are close to?

Do you set your limits in a simple manner when a bully is being aggressive?

Do you ask help from adults when being bullied?

Bullies lose their power if you don’t cower. Deep down, they doubt they deserve your respect. They admire you for speaking with self-assurance and confidence. So when they bombard, don’t counterpunch. Rather, win them over with your strong, firm, courteous demeanor.

Bullies operate by making their victims feel alone and powerless. Children reclaim their power when they make and maintain connections with faithful friends and supportive adults.

The trick is to remain polite and professional while still setting your limits firmly. Don't let the bully get under your skin—that's what he wants. Practice your response so you're prepared the next time something happens and you can respond swiftly without getting emotional. Keep it simple and straightforward, for example: ‘I don't think your tone is appropriate.

If you are being bullied, it is encouraged to talk to someone about it. Children/teens don’t always want to talk to their parent or carer about bullying issues, but it’s critical they talk to someone they feel comfortable with. It might be better talk to friends or a teacher at school or use a service like Kids Helpline. If the issue becomes serious, it might need to be escalated to the principal or police.

Remember that bullies are human - they eat, sleep and live just like you do. The only difference is that you are NOT a bully! Bullies act the way they do because they lack the attention or parental love and nurturing that you have. They are insecure and bully only to feel powerful. Bullies look for a reaction from you and often lose interest if they aren't given the satisfaction of getting one.