How Do I Stop Being dependent?

Do you take care of yourself by indulging in your 'wants'?

Do you spend time alone with yourself?

Do you know what your strengths are?

Do you observe other people to find out what you like about them?

Do you recognize the patterns that have led you to being dependent?

Dependency begins when we don't know how to be there for ourselves emotionally. The reliance on others to make you feel connected and fulfill your emotional needs completely disregards your ability to self-validate.

All of us need alone time. It's healthy to spend time alone, whether you're self-reflecting or simply taking part in a favorite solo activity. While it can be scary to feel like you need and want time away from your partner, it's important to communicate what you need when you know you need it. Remember that spending time in solitude is not self-indulgent.

What are you good at? No matter how small the strength may be, identify it. Making a list of your strengths is a great way to become more emotionally independent because you start to see what you have to offer independent of any relationship.

Begin observing the people in your life in order to shed emotional dependency. What are the things you admire about them? Now, turn the mirror toward you and see how you have very similar traits.

Emotional dependency is often the result of previous experiences and relationships that we've had. These experiences train us to behave in a codependent way, seeking another person to validate your sense of worth. The key to becoming more emotionally independent is to first recognize where your current pattern of behavior stems from and assess where you're at and how to change your state of mind in order to be more emotionally independent.

Most important of all is know your worth. Emotional dependency stems from a whole bunch of issues, but one of them is a lack of self-confidence. In order to be emotionally independent, you need to have self-assurance, which will allow you to acknowledge your worth.