Have I Raised A Spoiled Child?

Is your child rarely satisfied with what they have?

Does your child demand things as soon as possible?

When you tell them “no,” does your child throw a tantrum until they get what they want?

Does your child think everything is about him/her?

Does your child refuse to complete even simple tasks until you beg?

Does your child refuse to don’t give up until they get what they want?

Does your child have a hard time losing?

While it is unlikely that you have raised a spoiled child, your child may be displaying a sign related to it. A spoiled kid is one that thinks everything revolves around their needs, feelings and wants. Children will do what we train them to do. So if parents have never set any limits, the child will not be used to take into consideration appropriate limits. Parents can un-spoil a child, but it does take some serious commitment. Luckily, in your case, there seem to be little reason to worry.

Based on your answers, your child is displaying some signs related to being spoiled. The intentions of parents who spoil their children are usually good, but misguided. They want to give their kids the best life possible, because mom or dad did not have that when growing up. They are afraid of hurting their kids’ feelings. In other cases, parents are just too tired to enforce the rules. The good news is that kids can be un-spoiled; the sooner, the better. First of all, allow your kids to be upset and cry, while empathizing at the same time. Besides, get used to saying ‘no’ without feeling bad. Teach your kid to be considerate of others. Remember that kids respond better to encouragement, rather than punishment.

Unfortunately, your child is displaying the signs typically seen among spoiled kids. Luckily, spoiled kids are made, not born. Un-spoiling is possible, but it takes some serious commitment from mom and dad. First of all, allow your kids to be upset and cry. You can empathize but keep holding your limit. Besides, get used to saying ‘no’ without feeling bad. Teach your kid to be considerate of others and practice gratitude as a family for the beautiful things in your lives. Also, make sure to shift the focus to ‘we’ and not ‘me’. Remember that kids respond better to encouragement, rather than punishment.