Does My Child Have An Abusive Coach?

Does the coach use training as punishment?

Does the coach seek control of life outside sports?

Does the coach look for emotional buttons and then exploit those to keep the athlete under their control?

Does the coach use fear-based coaching?

Does the coach frequently comment or critique physical appearance?

Does the coach focus on their own coaching track record, prioritizing their own reputation?

Does the coach avoid encouragement during difficulty?

Does the coach betray confidences?

Does the coach engage in inappropriate physical touch?

Based on your answers, it seems unlikely that your child has an abusive coach. A coach is often one of the first relationships a child has outside their own family. Sometimes parents know very little about them. But it’s important to be aware of warning signs in these relationships in order to stop abuse before it’s too late. Teach your child to recognize these signs as well.

Based on your answers, there are some signs that your child may be dealing with an abusive coach. This is a serious issue that should not be ignored. Abuse (whether it’s emotional, physical, or sexual) can lead to psychological trauma, depression, anxiety or eating disorders. As a parent it’s important to be aware of the warning signs in the relationships between your child and coach in order to stop abusive behavior. If you are concerned about taking action, try to find other parents with similar concerns. Standing up for your child will let them know that you will not go bat for them and will also spare other kids from being abused.

Unfortunately, there are many signs that your child may be dealing with an abusive coach. It’s time to take action, because this is a very serious issue. Make sure to be familiar with these signs of abuse and teach your child to recognize them as well. Listen to your child if they complain about their coach, even if you think they are exaggerating. It’s hard for children to talk about these things, and if your child does talk about it, it’s something you should not ignore. If you are concerned about taking action, try to find other parents with similar concerns. Standing up for your child will let them know that you will not go bat for them and will also spare other kids from being abused.