Am I Part Of A Toxic Family?

Do you feel controlled?

Do you feel contempt or disdain instead of love?

Were you expected to meet unrealistic standards?

Do you experience abuse (emotional, physical, verbal)?

Were you severely criticized?

Is there substance use in the family?

Do you feel your needs were not met?

Based on your answers, it’s unlikely that you are part of a toxic family. That is, of course, the result we all would like to see. The word ‘family’ can bring to mind several complex emotions, that depend on your childhood as well as current family situation. For some people these feelings can be negative, for others positive, or maybe even an equal mix of both. All families have their problems from time to time, but in healthy families members still feel respected, supported, and loved. A toxic family dynamic, on the other hand, can feel tense and unstable and it can cause a lot of harm.

Based on your answers, you are displaying some signs of being part of a toxic family. Your feelings may go beyond frustration or annoyance. Interacting with your family may cause emotional distress. Toxic family dynamics can be hard to recognize sometimes, and many people don’t realize the effects of a toxic family environment until they are adults. Remember that any behavior that makes you feel unloved or bad about yourself, is unlikely a healthy one. A toxic family can cause a great deal of harm. It may be important to reach out to a therapist who can offer guidance.

Unfortunately, you are displaying the signs typically seen among individuals who are part of a toxic family. There is no right or wrong way to deal with this. Some people choose to cut off the contact completely, while others try to limit contact. Growing up in a toxic family can cause emotional and mental health challenges that may require treatment. You may feel anxious or depressed, and these feelings can have long-term effects. You may consider talking to a mental health professional, or maybe you prefer to open up to a partner or friend. Protect your emotional well-being and work towards a solution for yourself.