Do I Care Too Much About How Others See Me?

Do you try to please everyone?

Do you evaluate yourself through other people’s eyes?

Do you have a hard time saying “no”?

Do you let feedback stop you from trying?

Are you concerned about always saying the right things?

Do you give others’ behavior too much meaning?

Do you never really give yourself credit?

Are you putting yourself last?

Do you feel trapped in an unfulfilled, unsatisfactory life?

Do you try to make everyone like you?

Based on your answers, you don’t care too much about how others see you, which is a great thing! You probably know that, no matter how careful you behave, you simply can’t make everyone like you. Living a life without comments from others, is not possible. Besides, always trying to please others is just exhausting and can eventually cause you to burn out. As you may know, the healthiest way to build genuine connections with others and a life you love, is to be willing not to be liked by everyone!

Based on your answers, you are displaying some signs that you may care too much about how others see you. There is nothing wrong with wanting to project a good self-image to the outside world, but when you become too worried about what others think of you, you distort your own image of yourself. Know that the only one who can define you, is you! Live for yourself and stop living for everyone else! Remember that their ‘not liking’ you is not a reflection of your value as a person. It’s just a reflection of their preferences, ideas, and needs.

Unfortunately, you are displaying the signs typically seen among individuals who care too much about how others see you. The best thing you can do right now is to genuinely connect with people who share the same interests (or have different points of view that fascinate you!), that understand you and with whom you can have great conversations. Do things that give you energy, that light you up. Allow yourself to do what you like to do, regardless of what other people may say. Make sure to genuinely feel fulfilled!