Do I Have An Authoritarian/Disciplinarian Parenting Style?

Are you impatient with your kids’ misbehavior?

Are you demanding, but not responsive?

Can you confirm that you don’t give your children choices or options?

When it comes to setting rules or making decisions, is it true that your kids don't get a say or a vote?

Do you give your kids little warmth or nurturing?

Can you confirm that you don’t trust your kids to make good choices?

Do you provide little explanation for (harsh) punishments?

Do you believe that shaming will motivate your children to do better?

Based on your answers, it seems unlikely that you have an authoritarian/disciplinarian parenting style. Authoritarian parenting is a parenting style based on high demands and low responsiveness. These parents have very high expectations of their kids, but they don’t provide nurturing or positive feedback. When the kids make mistakes, they are punished harshly. It’s also common that this type of parents yell at their kids and that they physically punish them. We can all agree that rules are important for kids, but authoritarian parenting is too punitive. It lacks nurturing, warmth, and love that children need just as much.

Based on your answers, you are displaying some signs of an authoritarian/disciplinarian parenting style. This is the most controlling style of all. This type of parenting does not teach kids to manage their own behaviors and the focus is on adherence to authority. The feedback authoritarian parents provide is in the form of punishments, instead of positive reinforcement. An authoritarian approach can be useful in situations in which kids need strict adherence to rules. But authoritarian parenting can have many negative causes when overused. If you think that your parenting style is indeed authoritarian, you should look for ways to be more authoritative (reasonable demands and high responsiveness).

Based on your answers, you are displaying various signs of authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parenting is a parenting style based on high demands and low responsiveness. Parents with this parenting style expect absolute obedience. Kids that were raised by such parents are usually good at following rules, but they often lack self-discipline. Kids don’t get the chance to act independently, so they don’t know how to set their personal limits. When the authority parent is n around, it will lead to difficulties. We can all agree that rules are important for kids, but authoritarian parenting is too punitive. Besides, it lacks nurturing, warmth, and love that children need just as much.