Am I Insecure In My Relationship?

Do you have a hard time trusting your partner?

Do you create mountains over molehills?

Do you struggle with intimacy?

Do you easily feel attacked?

Do you become panicked easily?

Do you have difficulties accepting yourself?

Based on your answers, it’s unlikely that you are insecure in your relationship. It’s not uncommon to experience insecurity in a romantic relationship and question whether that means that your partner is not the right person for you. People with a secure attachment style are likely to have fewer problems. They are also happier and are better at supporting their partner. Remember that insecurity is so much more than trust. You may have all the trust that your partner is not going to cheat on you, but you can still feel insecure.

Based on your answers, you are displaying some signs of insecurity in your relationship. You may ask yourself what the root cause is of security in our relationships. An increase in technology use can have an influence on how secure we feel with our partner. However, our core insecurities are more likely to stem from attachment problems, described as any time there was a relationship in the past that has damaged our trust. This can take away opportunities of ever letting anyone truly in. If your insecurities make you feel uncomfortable, it may be recommended to speak to your doctor or counselor.

Unfortunately, you are displaying signs typically seen among individuals who are insecure in their relationship. Remember: you can be insecure in your relationship and still be with the right person. It’s possible that you are just self-sabotaging because you have difficulties to let anyone in too closely. You may not know how to deal with your insecurities, projections, your behavior and attachment style. If you find you are insecure, it would be recommended to seek help from a counselor. Besides, you may benefit from self-awareness work to understand if the cause is external or that you are just in an incompatible relationship.