Do I Hate My Friend?

Do you feel more anxiety than excitement to see this friend?

Do you find yourself avoiding this friend?

Do you tend to bite your tongue and avoid eye contact often?

Have you start to disagree with almost everything this friend says?

Do you feel like you’re in a bad mood each time you leave a hangout with this friend?

Do you disagree with things he/she does, and can’t be honest about this?

Have you stopped initiating contact?

Based on your answers, it’s unlikely that you started disliking or hating one of your friends. We often read about romantic break-ups: how to survive and deal with them. However, we are coached less on friendships. We are encouraged to feel that you should keep your friends for life. We did not learn how or when to break a friendship, so we may start to hate some of our friends silently until we explode and end the relationship there. Luckily, you may have nothing to worry about, but if you would ever find yourself in such a situation, it’s important to understand why you want to stop being friends with them. If you decide it’s better to break up, do it in a respectful manner.

Based on your answers, you are displaying some signs that you start hating one of your friends. It’s not a fun time, but our dislike for someone in our life can creep up unexpectedly. Before deciding what to do about it, you should first try to understand why the relationship turned sour or why you stopped liking your friend. Try to figure out why you want to break up with your friend. If you finally decide to do it, make sure to do it in a grown up and respectful way. It’s normal that people change, none of us stays the same forever. Whilst your friend can change for the better, they might develop traits that mean you guys don’t match anymore.

Unfortunately, it seems like you start hating or disliking one of your friends. Breaking up with a friend can be just as traumatic as breaking up with a boy- or girlfriend, even if you start disliking them. Friends are important in our lives and cutting them out can be very upsetting for both friends involved. Especially if you spend a lot of time together or have a long shared history. It’s important to know what may be the reason that turned the relationship sour. If you, after careful consideration, feel like breaking up with your friend, make sure to do this in a respectful manner.