Am I Putting Enough Effort Into My Relationships?

Do you make it a point to spend some time each day with your loved ones?

Do you feel exhausted when you have to do something for the other person?

Do you think you know everything about the other person?

Do you remember the important dates?

Are you overanalyzing everything?

Do you accommodate the other person's schedule?

That simply means you're not putting enough effort into the relationship. Remember, this doesn't have to be something special every day. Just a hi note, a text message, a phone call, or even a hug is enough to tell the other person that you miss them and want to spend time with him or her. It is also a way of saying that you're always there to support in every way possible.

If you feel exhausted to put any kind of effort into a relationship, it simply means you don't feel the same about that person anymore. For some reason, you have moved on as at the deepest levels, you're not ready to put in the effort.

That's a sign that you're not putting enough time and effort into the relationship. When you do, you'll know the other person well and can even predict what he or she is going to say/do. That said, you can't know a person so well during the initial days of your relationship, so keep that in mind as well. As your relationship matures, you'll learn more about the other person.

There are some dates that you can never forget like the birthday of your partner, anniversary date if you're married, the first day you met, the day you decided to get married, your engagement date, and more. That's because you have a ton of good memories associated with these days and you'd never want to forget them. So, if you start missing or forgetting these important dates, it's time to move on.

If you're overanalyzing every word or action, it means you're putting way too much effort than what you should and it is time you step back a bit. This is necessary to ensure that you continue to have a good relationship with the other person, as overanalysis and its resulting questions can be annoying for anyone. So, avoid getting into that mindset if you want to keep your relationship healthy and happy.

If you accommodate your schedule based on the other person's schedule, it means you're putting considerable time and effort into the relationship, which is good. Just make sure you don't bend too much and you're not taken for granted.

To some extent, it is ok to not accommodate the other person's schedule. But if you're even closed to that idea of accommodating, then something is wrong and you should evaluate your relationship. Also, consider putting in some time and effort into the relationship as well.