Why Am I So Aggressive?

Do you experience verbal aggression (e.g., temper tantrums, tirades, verbal arguments or fights) or physical aggression toward property, animals, or other individuals, occurring twice weekly, on average, for a period of 3 months? The physical aggression does not result in damage, destruction or physical injury.

Do you experience three behavioral outbursts involving damage or destruction of property and/or physical assault involving physical injury against animals or other individuals occurring within a 12-month period?

Is the magnitude of aggressiveness expressed during the recurrent outbursts grossly out of proportion to the provocation or to any precipitating psychosocial stressors?

Are the recurrent aggressive outbursts not premeditated (i.e., they are impulsive and/ or anger-based) and are not committed to achieve some tangible objective (e.g., money, power, intimidation)?

Do the recurrent aggressive outbursts cause either marked distress in the individual or impairment in occupational or interpersonal functioning, or are they associated with financial or legal consequences?

Aggressive behavior can be caused by several factors, including mental disorders (e.g., major depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, disruptive mood dysregulation disorder) medical conditions (e.g., head trauma, Alzheimer’s disease) or by a substance (drug or medication). Besides, people may show aggression because they feel threatened or have low self-esteem. However, it can also be related to a disorder called intermittent explosive disorder. The explosive behaviors happen suddenly and usually last around 30 minutes. Afterwards people may feel relieved, but later they may regret their behavior. A visit to your doctor may be helpful in case you would like to understand the cause of your emotions.

Based on your answers, you may be displaying several signs related to extremely aggressive behavior. Healthy aggression is normal and helps us to respond to challenging situations with power and clarity, while we are holding compassion for ourselves and other persons. Aggressive behavior can be caused by many factors, including stress, anxiety, feeling threatened, or feeling insecure. Extremely aggressive behavior often causes additional problems such as relationships issues, problems at work, school or at home, mood problems, or physical health problems. In case you experience recurrent aggressive outbursts, it may be important to seek medical attention.

Unfortunately, you are displaying the symptoms typically seen among individuals who have intermittent explosive disorder. If you’re experiencing repeated emotional outbursts it is essential to discuss this with your doctor. Treatment from a professional may be required, which usually includes psychotherapy (talk therapy) and medication. It is very important to stick with your treatment plan. Besides, you could practice some relaxation techniques at home to stay calm. You could also work on improving your communication with others, or how to solve a frustrating problem. A calm mind, discipline, and detachment will help you to significantly reduce your aggressiveness.